People-Pleasing Tendencies: What They're Costing You

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🎬 VIDEO SUMMARY
People-pleasing doesn’t just wear you down—it slowly rewires how you think about yourself, your time, and your worth. And most people don’t realize how much it’s costing them until they’re completely burned out. In this video, we’ll look at what the costs of long-term people pleasing really are—the more visible ones, the more hidden ones, and how they add up over time—so you can start to recognize and change the patterns that are sucking the life out of you.

Needs lists/wheels:
I mentioned needs lists/wheels in this video. You can search “Wheel of Universal Human Needs,” “needs wheel” or “NVC Needs Wheel” and find a ton of different lists and graphics. I’ll link a few below, but since these sites/pages don’t belong to me, I can’t guarantee the links will be up to date forever, so feel free to search for these terms on your own if the links no longer work.
• Wheel of Universal Human Needs: https://www.ama-assn.org/system/files...
• Needs Wheel: https://eddinscounseling.com/wp-conte...
• NVC Feelings and Needs List: https://www.sociocracyforall.org/nvc-...


📌 ABOUT ME & MY CHANNEL
If you’re new to my channel, my name is Dawn Ascanio. I help driven but drained women stop people-pleasing so they can live with more ease and peace. As a therapist for over 17 years and now a therapeutic coach, I’ve helped countless women overcome emotional burnout from behaviors in the people-pleasing family (like over-achieving, over-performing, over-helping, over-giving, etc.) so they can reclaim their time, energy, and mental bandwidth to focus on what matters most to them (and I’ve done this in my own life as well). My channel is all about sharing insights and practical strategies toward this end.


🌟 WORK WITH DAWN
My 1:1 psychology-informed coaching programs help you go from overwhelmed and emotionally burnt out to living with more ease and peace:

🌿 People-Pleasing Review (Assessment & Consultation)— https://www.dawnascanio.com/people-pl...

🛠️ People-Pleasing Recovery Plan (8-session coaching program— https://www.dawnascanio.com/8-session...


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🌱 SUPPORT & ENGAGE
Which of the costs I list in the video feels most present in your life right now? Which ones would you most like to see change in the next month or two? Leave a comment and share your experience. I think you'll find you're not alone.

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📜 DISCLAIMER
This video is for educational purposes only. It’s not therapy or a substitute for mental health care. Interactions on this platform do not create a professional-client relationship and are not confidential. If you are in need of mental health support, please seek help from a qualified professional in your area. For immediate crisis support, please call 911 or your local crisis hotline. I don’t provide personalized advice in comments or DMs.


🌐 COMMUNITY GUIDELINES
I welcome meaningful reflection and respectful conversation in the comments. Because this is a public platform and not a place for therapeutic support, I may remove comments that appear to need more individualized support than can be offered in this forum. Unkind or disrespectful comments will be removed immediately to protect the integrity of this space.


🌿💜 Dawn