The DANGERS of Relationship Advice from Friends

Are you sick to d**th of everyone else's opinions on your life? This isn't just another "motivational video"; it's a brutal look at how "people pleasing" can destroy your relationships, especially when you're trying to figure out "boundaries" with well-meaning but meddling friends. We're cutting through the noise to discuss true "self improvement" and the absolute necessity of "setting boundaries" to protect your peace.

We love our friends… but should we really be trusting them with our love lives?
This episode dives into the complicated, messy, sometimes hilarious and sometimes heartbreaking world of relationship advice between friends — when it helps, when it harms, and when it’s just projecting in a cute outfit.

We explore:

Why we run to our friends for reassurance, why they feel so strongly about choices that aren’t theirs, and how the advice we take (or don’t take) can completely change the direction of a relationship. Because sometimes support feels like love… and sometimes it feels like three girls on a couch reading Tarot cards deciding if you should block him.

From protection to projection, from personal wounds to well-meaning meddling, this conversation unpacks the beautiful but dangerous dynamic of letting others influence your heart.⸻

👭 Why it is good to talk to friends — but not rely on them to choose for us
🙈 Why hiding things from friends can reveal a bigger problem
🧩 No one sees the full picture — not even you
💔 When friends advise based on their own trauma or bad relationships
⚠️ The guilt of ignoring advice — or following advice you never wanted
🔮 The "fortune teller friend" and tarot-reading predictions of your breakup
💬 Support vs control — how do we advise without taking over someone’s life?
🔄 Giving advice we don't take ourselves (we’ve all done it)
🩹 Abusive relationships — helping, supporting and being realistic
🔥 When the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the fear of change

Chapters

00:00 Intro
01:54 Why it’s a good thing to speak to your friends about your relationship
02:54 Hiding things from friends — is it a red flag?
03:20 We don’t share all the good or bad — no one sees the full picture
04:37 Friends want to protect, but they advise from their own experience
05:25 Single friends and feeling guilty going against their opinions
07:20 Friends acting like fortune tellers & Tarot card predictions
08:52 Your right is the only right — the decision has to be yours
10:07 Was it friends advice or what you wanted deep down?
11:28 How to help a friend without controlling their choices
12:40 Protecting friends more than we protect ourselves
14:34 Abusive relationships, surviving and rebuilding
17:48 When staying hurts more than changing — action happens
19:00 Why it’s hard to help friends leave abusive situations

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About my mother said I shouldn’t
my mother said i shouldn’t is a podcast about unlearning the things we were told growing up. Hosted by life coach Michaela Longden and health coach Sarah Duncan, it’s a space for open, unfiltered conversations about life, identity, relationships and the messy middle between who we were told to be and who we actually are. Expect honesty, laughter and the conversations you wish you could have at brunch.
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