Dealing With Daddy Issues: Attachment Wounding and Becoming Securely Attached | Being Well

You've probably heard of the phrase "daddy issues," which is more accurately understood as a form of attachment wounding. Attachment wounding describes situations where our adult relationships are affected by past difficult or traumatic experiences. I'm finally talking with my dad, psychologist @RickHanson, about what daddy issues are, common forms they take, and what we can do about them.

We explore how daddy issues relate to attachment theory, sexism and the broader social and historical context, different forms of attachment wounding, and a simple way to understand your attachment style. We then walk through four typical sets of symptoms and related challenges that can come from attachment wounding, and talk about what a person can do to move toward a more secure attachment style.

Key Topics:
0:00 Introduction
3:35 What are daddy issues?
6:35 Parental roles and attachment wounding symptoms
13:45 How attachment patterns are created
20:30 Yearning for narcissistic supplies
23:00 Gendered dynamics, and the pejorative use of the phrase “daddy issues”
28:45 Claiming your power
31:50 Forming a coherent narrative, and looking for what was missing
35:35 A simple method for assessing your attachment style
42:30 Social support
45:05 Who you are to others, and meeting person to person
51:10 Situation #1: How to deal with fears of abandonment and being alone
55:20 Situation #2: “I need a lot of reassurance and external validation.”
58:40 Situation #3: Fears related to emotional vulnerability
1:05:55 Situation #4: “I keep dating the same (problematic) kind of person.”
1:11:25 Making deliberate effort
1:16:10 Recap

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Who Am I: I'm Forrest, the co-author of Resilient (https://amzn.to/3iXLerD) and host of the Being Well Podcast (https://apple.co/38ufGG0). I'm making videos focused on simplifying psychology, mental health, and personal growth.

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