E211: Ask A Sex Therapist: Penis Pumps, Pegging, + Postpartum Sex

Have you ever Googled something about sex and then immediately deleted your search history? 🥵

In this week’s episode, Vanessa (a sex therapist with 20+ years of experience) and Xander (her ever-curious, regular dude husband) answer your most personal, pressing, wait-am-I-the-only-one? questions about sex, intimacy, and everything in between.

Here’s what we’re diving into:
✔️Is it weird if my partner and I don’t kiss during sex? (Pretty Woman, anyone?)
✔️What exactly is pegging?
✔️Is it normal for other things to be “better than sex”?
✔️Can using a penis pump have consequences?
✔️Should you get a vasectomy? (Xander’s in the club!)
✔️Postpartum sex — what are men really thinking?
✔️Can responsive/spontaneous desire be taught? Like can you switch your type?

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Timestamps:

0:00 – Intro
3:28 – Q1: What’s the Deal with Keeping It In All Night?
9:38 – Q2: We Don’t Kiss During Sex – Is That Normal?
18:33 – Q3: What is Pegging?
24:07 – Q4: Is It Normal for Other Things to Be Better Than Sex?
30:49 – Q5: Does a Vasectomy Make You Less of a Man?
46:22 – Q6: Penis Pumps – Are They Safe?
49:45 – Q7: Do Men Like Sex the Same After Birth?
54:29 – Q8: How Do I Participate When He’s On Top?
01:00:00 – Q9: Can Desire Type Be Changed?