Steven Bartlett - Why Men Feel "Caged" In Relationships (And Pull Away) | Jefferson Fisher

Steven Bartlett - Why Men Feel "Caged" In Relationships (And Pull Away) | Jefferson Fisher
Steven Bartlett - Why Men Feel "Caged" In Relationships (And Pull Away) | Jefferson Fisher

Being "nice" is often a trauma response, not a virtue. If you constantly sacrifice your own comfort to keep the peace, or feel like you are losing your identity in your relationship, you are likely trapped in a cycle of people-pleasing that stems directly from your childhood.

In this deep dive, we explore the crucial difference between being "nice" (which is surface-level and often fake) and being "kind" (which requires the courage to be real). Jefferson Fisher reveals the red flags of inauthentic people, including the "Bestie Bombing" technique, and explains why men often feel "caged" in long-term relationships. We also discuss how to trace your current relationship arguments back to historical childhood wounds and how to finally set boundaries that stick.

Timestamps:
00:00 - The "No Phone in Bed" Argument: A Case Study
02:18 - Connection vs. Inconvenience: The Key to Happy Relationships
04:02 - The "Caged" Man: Why Men Lose Their Freedom
06:34 - Why You MUST Have Hobbies Away From Your Partner
09:18 - Stop Being Nice, Start Being Kind (The Difference)
11:28 - The Root of People Pleasing: "I Am Nothing If I Can't Please You"
15:39 - How To Express Regret When You Go "Static"
18:07 - "If It's Hysterical, It's Historical": Decoding Your Triggers
20:06 - How Childhood Poverty Shapes Your Spending Habits
25:19 - 3 Signs Someone Is Fake (The "Bestie Bombing" Trap)

Jefferson Fisher is a communication expert and author who has helped millions of people find their voice. Known for his practical, calm, and actionable advice, he specializes in helping "recovering people pleasers" navigate conflict, set boundaries, and build authentic connections without guilt

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