The struggle of MAKING FRIENDS as an adult! 🧡 (Tips + friendship deal breakers.) | Ep. 25

EP #25 - FOR YOU: Making and Maintaining Adult Friendships That Lift You Up
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This deep-dive on friendships brought to you by countless listener DMs and years of oscillating between loneliness and social burnout. The balance is hard to strike and the stumbling never ends, but if we had to summarize our tips for finding lasting friendships, they might look something like:

Accept that making new friends takes time and will contain disappointment
Know that not every connection needs to be your deepest in order to serve you
Allow space for friendships to breathe when the ebs and flows of life happen
Be mindful of how you approach your friends for help, and how you offer help to them in return
Beware of possessive friendships and passive-aggressive behavior
Be honest with yourself about the friendships you can and should prioritize
In conclusion, everyone's just trying to live their lives. Plus some stupider tidbits we threw into the episode for good measure, including Caroline's iPhone notes from 2017, a hidden talent Jess discovered in herself this week, and the origin story of the phrase "having a time." AND ALSO, a drop-in from our editor, Abi! Now let Jess get back to her ugly night.

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This episode was edited by none other than our prince, Abi Newhouse.

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Contents of this Video
00:00 - Intro
00:18 - we're failing across the board
4:00 - how to have an "UGLY" day
10:20 - the meanest comment about Caroline's physical appearance
12:20 - the struggle of making friends as an adult
17:30 - why socializing is harder after school
23:00 - changing your mindset
26:35 - embracing different levels of friendship
32:20 - when your friendship needs don't match up
37:30 - maintaining friendships LONGTERM
42:15 - setting your social INTENTIONS / GOALS
48:00 - what to do with limited time/energy
54:30 - how to NOT dump on your friends
1:00:20 - friendship JELOUSY
1:11:30 - the fallacy of "figuring it all out"
1:15:20 - if you fall in love, ask yourself these questions...
1:19:55 - Jess is an olympian
1:23:55 - we were not cool in college
1:26:49 - Jess is a trend setter.
1:28:36 - An insight from our editor, Abi.










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All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or mental health professionals, or really professional of any kind. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA

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