Stop Trying to Fix Yourself — Do This Instead

January tells us it’s time to change — to upgrade ourselves, fix our habits, and become a “new version” of who we are.
But what if that pressure is the very thing keeping you stuck?
In this episode of Masks Off for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, Kim Gross challenges the idea that you need to improve yourself to be worthy. Instead, she invites you into something deeper and more sustainable: self-awareness, compassion, and truth.
If you’re a people pleaser, perfectionist, or high-achiever who secretly feels exhausted by constant self-work, this episode will help you:
Release the pressure to reinvent yourself every January
Understand why self-improvement can feel so heavy
Identify the masks you learned to wear to feel safe and accepted
Shift from self-fixing to self-connection
Create real change through awareness, not willpower
This isn’t about becoming a new you.
It’s about waking up to the one who’s already here.
🌀 New year. Same you. But this time — awake.
👇 CHAPTERS
00:00 Introduction & January blues
00:35 New year pressure & expectations
02:29 When self-improvement turns harmful
06:20 Growth vs. fixing yourself
06:58 Radical self-honesty
10:07 The masks we wear
13:02 Roots of people-pleasing
16:57 The cost of perfectionism
23:39 Choosing awareness in 2026
30:32 Closing reflection
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