35. Permission to feel - stop invalidating your own feelings

In this episode, we open up an honest conversation about what it really means to stand up for yourself and your feelings — even when the world tells you to just “get on with it.” Within military life, there’s a constant expectation to be strong, resilient, and unshakable. But where does that leave space for vulnerability, frustration, or just saying, “I’m struggling”?

We dig deep into the stigma that often surrounds speaking out in military communities — especially for partners and spouses who are too often labelled as “moaning” or “pad wives” when they voice their thoughts. It’s a powerful reminder that sharing your feelings doesn’t make you negative, dramatic, or weak — it makes you human.

Through open and relatable discussion, we explore how to validate your own emotions without tearing others down, and how to create space for honesty and empathy in a culture that sometimes prioritises silence over truth. Whether you’re serving, supporting someone who is, or simply navigating life in a community built on resilience, this episode encourages you to find your voice and use it without guilt.

Because strength isn’t about suppressing your feelings — it’s about standing tall and staying real.

🎙️ Join us as we break the stereotypes, challenge outdated expectations, and remind each other that it’s okay to speak up, to feel deeply, and to take up space — even in a world that often tells us not to.
military life podcast, military spouse, pad wife stigma, emotional resilience, mental health, women in the military community, vulnerability, authenticity, mental wellbeing, military family support

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