Love Didn’t Evolve to Make You Happy

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Why do we fall in love and why does it feel like both magic and madness? Neuroscience reveals that love isn’t just an emotion, it’s chemistry. From dopamine highs that mimic hart drugs to the painful crash of heartbreak, desire is wired into our biology as a survival mechanism.

In this video, we decode the science of love:
How falling in love activates the brain’s reward system
Why heartbreak physically hurts like an illness
The difference between lust, love, and long-term attachment
How desire survives in long relationships (and why it fades)
What researchers like Helen Fisher and Esther Perel discovered about obsession, attraction, and lasting passion

Love is biology, addiction, and evolution. Are we really choosing love, or is love choosing us?

If you’ve ever wondered why you can’t stop thinking about someone, why heartbreak hijacks your body, or whether true love can last, this deep dive into the chemistry of desire has the answers.

0:00 – The Chemistry of Desire
0:24 – Love as a Cocktail of Chemicals
1:05 – Is Love an Evolutionary Trap?
2:17 – Love and the Brain’s Reward System
3:45 – Why Logic Fails When We’re in Love
4:46 – Love as a Natural Addiction
5:59 – Obsession and the Dopamine Loop
7:18 – Lust vs. Love Explained
9:28 – The Role of Touch and Oxytocin
10:09 – Why Love Makes Us Irrational
11:55 – Rose-Colored Glasses and Brain Fog
12:14 – Desire in Long-Term Relationships
14:29 – Can We Control Who We Love?
16:38 – Learning to Love With Clarity
16:47 – The Craft of Staying in Love
17:26 – Secrets of Long-Term Lovers
18:03 – Values, Communication, and Curiosity
19:01 – How to Keep Desire Alive
20:43 – Are We Wired for Monogamy?
21:58 – The Science of Love Summarized
22:58 – Closing Reflections