Hold On To Your Kids | Dr. Gordon Neufeld | ABTY Podcast Episode 197

Join our mail list here for exclusive content here:
https://ryanhartley.us19.list-manage....

Sign up for our January Good Fathers group here: https://abty.co.uk/good-fathers

On episode 197 I am joined by Dr. Gordon Neufeld, author of the best selling book Hold on to Your Kids, co-authored with Dr. Gabor Maté.

Before he retired, Dr. Gordon Neufeld had accumulated more than 40 years of experience as a clinical psychologist with children and youth and those responsible for them. A foremost authority on child development, Dr. Neufeld continues to be an international speaker, a best-selling author (Hold On to Your Kids) and a leading interpreter of the developmental paradigm.

Dr. Neufeld has a widespread reputation for making sense of complex problems and for opening doors for change. While formerly involved in university teaching and private practice, he has devoted the best part of the last two decades to creating courses for parents, teachers and helping professionals.

These courses are offered primarily through the Neufeld Institute – an online educational institute and world-wide charitable organization devoted to applying developmental science to the task of raising children.

Dr. Neufeld’s lifes work has been to help adults provide the conditions for children to flourish. He is a father of five and a grandfather to seven.

In this episode you will hear:

02:00 why parents are struggling
06:30 we are being educated out of our instincts
08:30 the universal force of attachment
11:30 peer orientation vs. the village of attachment
16:00 why it is so difficult for step-parents
19:00 our roles as fathers
20:30 a child’s natural desire to be good versus counter-will
21:00 true power isn’t something we draw attention to
25:30 we are the answer
27:30 universal principles of attachment
29:00 the paradox of independence
34:00 it is always too early to retire
38:00 who am I the same as and the importance of family values
41:30 pick your battles
44:00 the damage caused by sending them to their room
47:00 hold on to your kids
49:30 the impact of parents that are always on their phones
52:30 you’re not going to feel on the battlefield, but home is where we get our hearts back
56:30 vulnerability is the enemy and the essence of the bully
58:00 Dr. Gordon’s Heartprint
1:01:00 the most important believe to have as a parent


I hope this interview inspires your heart-centred parenting.

Please do subscribe, leave a little review, and share it with a parent you wish to inspire too.

Always love
Ryan

Connect with Dr. Gordon Neufeld

Website: https://neufeldinstitute.org/
Facebook:   / neufeldinstitute  
YouTube:    / neufeldmedia  

Connect with Always Better than Yesterday

Website: https://abty.co.uk/
Instagram:   / alwaysbetterthanyesterdayuk  
TikTok:   / abty_uk  
LinkedIn:   / abty  
Discord:   / discord  
Facebook Community:   / weareabty  


Thank you to our friends at Elevate OM, proud supporters of the Always Better than Yesterday Interview Sessions.

Head to https://www.elevateom.com/ for Online Marketing & Web Design services that are affordable, bespoke & awesome.

Please email your questions and comments to [email protected]

#holdontoyourkids #gordonneufeld #gabormate