Everything’s My Fault – When Your Wife Makes You the Bad Guy

Feeling like the bad guy in every argument with your wife?

In this video I break down why so many Catholic husbands end up blamed, apologising, and walking on eggshells at home – even when they’re trying to lead justly.

If your marriage feels tense and you don’t know what to do next…
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In this video, we'll cover 👇

🔥 Why every serious conversation flips back to “your tone” or “you’re controlling”
🔥 What Catholic moral theology actually says about anger, correction and headship
🔥 One sentence you can use in ANY argument to separate your tone from the truth you’re trying to address
🔥 How to set calm, firm conditions for hard conversations without shouting or walking away
🔥 When you really are in the wrong – and how to repent without surrendering leadership

If you’re a husband who provides, stays faithful, goes to Mass… but feels like the villain in his own home, this is for you.

Chapters
00:00 - Introduction: Why do you always end up the "bad guy"?
00:18 - Feeling like the villain in every argument
00:43 - Composite story: The recurring pattern in marriages
01:08 - Why you keep getting cast as the bad guy
01:34 - The consequences of unresolved issues
02:02 - The deeper pattern: Years of letting things slide
02:36 - The duty and order of correction in marriage
03:10 - What Catholic teaching says about headship and correction
04:00 - How to exercise headship with charity and justice
05:45 - Choosing your battles and understanding your wife's reactions
06:28 - Quick check-in: Are your issues really being resolved?
07:15 - How to hold frame in conflict (Case study: Mark)
07:41 - Mark's background and recurring issues
08:01 - The three-part shift: Separate content from tone
08:31 - The key sentence to use in arguments
09:01 - Setting boundaries and conditions for conversation
09:32 - Virtue: Finding the middle ground in conflict
10:07 - Making real decisions and holding the line
10:55 - When you really are in the wrong: Honest repentance
11:30 - Weekly conflict examine: Building habits of ordered leadership
12:14 - Getting help and accountability for real change
12:47 - Invitation to join the community and final thoughts
13:33 - Outro: Share your thoughts and help others