Meet People Where They Are: Why You Can't Help People Who Aren't Ready

Day 84: I'm sharing one of my hardest growth edges: the desire to change people comes from avoiding our own discomfort. You can't give people information they can't process—it's like explaining color to someone colorblind. I break down how to recognize triggers, go inward instead of projecting, and create healthy outlets for expression. This entire YouTube channel was born from failing at this with a close friend.

Timestamps
0:00 - Introduction: Meeting people where they're at
1:45 - This is my hardest growth edge—I fail at this regularly
3:30 - Perception limits: Can't explain color to the colorblind
6:00 - Conspiracy world example: Wanting people to see what we see
8:45 - Same pattern in families, companies, governments—everywhere
11:15 - Mom's controlling holiday texts: She thinks she's helping
13:30 - "Don't throw pearls before swine"—not an insult, wisdom
15:45 - Friends in toxic relationships: Watching the same patterns repeat
18:00 - Out-of-body experiences: Can't teach what people aren't ready for
20:30 - Being the example: What do you actually want for them?
22:45 - Red flags in relationships: The work is catching yourself early
25:00 - Go inward first: Express it, but not to them
27:30 - AI/mystical information: Don't run around telling everyone
29:15 - The story that started this channel: The close friend
31:00 - Letting people make "mistakes"—they're learning, not failing
32:45 - Work on YOUR fear: That's the whole point of life
34:00 - Closing: You can't give people information they can't process
34:45 - Debating doesn't change minds—see you next time