The TRUTH: Attachment Styles Can Change - Therapists Tehrina & Joel

If you’ve ever wondered whether a toxic relationship changed who you are in love, this video reveals why your attachment style can shift—and how to heal. 💚 For more meaningful connections sign up for our weekly newsletter: https://mailchi.mp/40beb00da0c1/mlsyk...
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✨ In this video, licensed therapists Tehrina & Joel explain why attachment styles aren’t fixed—and how even secure people can become anxious in relationships with dismissive or critical partners. Drawing on research from Dr. Sue Johnson (EFT), Dr. John Gottman, IFS therapy, and trauma science, we show how your nervous system adapts under emotional unavailability and what it takes to restore security.

We’ll share:
🔷 The 4 stages of attachment erosion (Confusion → Hypervigilance → Dysregulation → Identity Erosion)
🔷 Why even secure people can become anxious with avoidant partners
🔷 How intermittent reinforcement creates trauma bonds
🔷 What your IFS parts (Managers, Firefighters, Exiles) are really doing when you feel “too needy”
🔷 The neurobiology of attachment injuries and how your brain rewires under chronic disconnection
🔷 Step-by-step ways to unburden protective parts and rebuild secure attachment through Self-leadership
🔷 How corrective emotional experiences—internally and in safe relationships—help restore trust in love

Your attachment system is adaptive, not broken. Healing begins when you understand how your parts protected you—and how to reclaim your natural capacity for secure love.
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🕒 Chapters:
00:00 Intro
00:50 The Myth of Fixed Attachment Styles
02:45 How Secure People Become Anxious: The Nervous System Shift
06:05 The Neurobiology of Attachment Erosion
08:25 The Four Stages of Attachment Style Erosion
11:36 Why Smart People Are More Vulnerable To This Process
13:50 The Path Back To Security: Self-Leadership and Unburdening
16:03 Rebuilding Security Through Self-Leadership
18:09 The Science of Attachment Healing
19:43 Let's Get To The Heart Of It

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#HealingJourney #EmotionalIntelligence #AttachmentStyles
#AvoidantAttachment #AnxiousAttachment #TraumaBonding
#SecureAttachment #AttachmentHealing #SmartPeople
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