Anxious Attachment: Why you get triggered and why working on the root is the only way to heal

Why do anxious attachment triggers feel so intense — even when you know you’re safe?

In this episode, Cassandra Michael, founder of Heal Anxious Attachment – The Hub interviews Satyam Altunel High-Performance Mental Coach & Somatic Healer, to break down why anxious attachment triggers are not mindset problems — but nervous system responses rooted in trauma.

We explore why self-awareness, positive thinking, and communication tools often aren’t enough, and why true healing requires working at the root level — including the body, unconscious trauma, and emotional regulation.

This conversation is essential for anyone who:

Feels easily triggered in relationships
Understands their patterns but can’t seem to change them
Has done mindset work but still reacts emotionally
Wants to heal anxious attachment for real, not just manage symptoms

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

Why anxious attachment triggers are stored in the **nervous system**, not just the mind
How trauma can exist *without conscious memories*
Why somatic work is essential for healing anxious attachment
The limits of self-awareness and mindset work alone
Grounding and regulation techniques for emotional triggers
How coping mechanisms form — and how to integrate them safely
Emotional mastery vs. emotional suppression
Why relationships themselves are part of the healing process
How therapeutic and spiritual work can be integrated (without bypassing)

This episode offers a grounded, trauma-informed perspective on healing anxious attachment by addressing root wounds, core beliefs, and embodied responses, rather than surface-level fixes.

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Chapters

00:00 Addressing Unconscious Trauma Without Memories
23:20 Coping Mechanisms and Healing
28:43 Anxious Attachment and Relationships
33:48 Emotional Mastery and Integration
39:00 Starting the Healing Journey

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If you’re ready to stop asking “Why do I keep getting triggered?” and start understanding what your body is actually asking for, this episode is for you.

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