The Origin of Self Hate — Why We Turn Pain Inward - Marsha Linehan Therapy

🔥 The Origin of Self-Hate — Why We Turn Pain Inward - Marsha Linehan Therapy 🔥

There is a kind of pain that doesn’t scream — it hides behind a smile, behind perfectionism, behind “I’m fine.”
You weren’t born hating yourself. You learned to, slowly, in moments when your emotions were dismissed, when your needs were too much, when love felt conditional. In those moments, you began turning pain inward — not because you were broken, but because it once felt safer than being rejected.

This video unpacks the psychology of self-hate through the lens of emotional invalidation, shame, and early attachment wounds — a compassionate deep dive inspired by Marsha Linehan’s work on self-acceptance and emotional healing.

🌿 In this video, you’ll learn:
✨ How self-hate begins as an adaptation, not a flaw
✨ The connection between emotional neglect and shame
✨ Why you blame yourself instead of those who hurt you
✨ How invalidation shapes your inner critic
✨ The path toward radical acceptance and self-compassion

💡 Takeaway:
Self-hate isn’t proof of your brokenness — it’s evidence of your survival. You did what you had to do to stay connected when love felt unsafe. Now, it’s time to unlearn the pain and remember who you are beneath it.

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“I DESERVE KINDNESS” — if you’re ready to replace self-criticism with compassion.

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00:00 – The Silent Kind of Pain
00:32 – Born Reaching for Connection
01:09 – When Love Becomes Unsafe
01:47 – How Self-Hate Begins
02:59 – The Roots of Shame and Invalidated Emotions
03:48 – The Split Between Real and Acceptable Self
05:09 – Survival Strategies That Become Suffering
06:43 – The Voice of Self-Hate and Its Origins
08:04 – Seeing Self-Hate as Protection, Not Failure
08:25 – The Birth of the Inner Critic
10:03 – How the Inner Critic Shapes Our Reality
13:14 – Shame, Fear, and the Inner War
15:12 – Understanding Self-Hate as Learned Survival
20:07 – Living with the War Inside
23:35 – The Turning Point: From Self-Judgment to Compassion
26:19 – Mindfulness, Acceptance, and the Path to Healing
30:39 – Reclaiming Your Worth and Authentic Self