Stop Being Everyone's Emotional ATM (Before You're Empty)

Stop Being Everyone's Emotional ATM (Before You're Empty)

🚀 Are you exhausted from caring too much? This video explores the hidden cost of "Human Giver Syndrome" and how constant vigilance can slowly destroy your health.

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TIMESTAMP
0:00 - Introduction
1:18 - Chapter 1: "Your Body's Warning System: Physical Signs Of Caring Too Much"
2:35 - Chapter 2: "The Emotional Bankruptcy: When Empathy Becomes Depleted"
4:03 - Chapter 3: "The Relationship Paradox: When Caring Creates Imbalance"
5:34 - Chapter 4: "The Professional Price Tag: Caring In Your Career"
7:24 - Chapter 5: "The Science Of Sustainable Compassion: What Research Tells Us"
8:53 - Chapter 6: "Drawing The Line: The Art Of Boundary Setting"
10:27 - Chapter 7: "Strategic Caring: Choosing Where To Invest Your Emotional Energy"
12:14 - Chapter 8: "Building Resilience: Tools For The Emotional Caregiver"
13:53 - Chapter 9: "From Depletion To Abundance: The Path Forward"

💡📚 Below is a curated list of books and research papers that further explore some of the concepts discussed in this video. (some links are affiliate links, which help support my channel)

BOOKS
1/ Burnout: The Secret To Unlocking The Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski
https://amzn.to/4jTA6KE

2/ Down Girl: The Logic Of Misogyny by Kate Manne
https://amzn.to/3Sjr3a0

3/ Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers by Robert M. Sapolsky
https://amzn.to/4cYQZRN

4/ The Compassionate Mind by Paul Gilbert
https://amzn.to/43aiCUG

5/ Emotional Labor: The Invisible Work Shaping Our Lives by Rose Hackman
https://amzn.to/4lVJNtJ

6/ Boundaries Are Self-Care by Asha Gibson
https://amzn.to/4jAiFyS

7/ Treating Compassion Fatigue edited by Charles R. Figley
https://amzn.to/3GA5eQW

8/ The Managed Heart by Arlie Russell Hochschild
https://amzn.to/4jCuNQf

9/ Compassionomics by Stephen Trzeciak and Anthony Mazzarelli
https://amzn.to/4lX7aTV

RESEARCH PAPERS
1/ Compassion Training Alters Altruism And Neural Responses To Suffering by Weng et al.
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23696...
Demonstrates that compassion can be cultivated through training, increasing altruistic behavior through engagement with neural systems for understanding suffering, emotional control, and reward processing.

2/ Short-Term Compassion Training Increases Prosocial Behavior In A Newly Developed Prosocial Game by Leiberg et al.
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/21408...
Shows that even short-term compassion training increases helping behavior toward strangers, particularly under conditions without reciprocity expectations.

3/ Effects Of Compassion Training On Brain Responses To Suffering Others by Ashar et al.
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles...
Reveals that compassion meditation specifically increases brain responses to suffering others in the medial orbitofrontal cortex compared to mere familiarity with suffering.

4/ What is compassion and how can we measure it? A review of definitions and measures by Clara Strauss et al.
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/27267...
Reviews definitions and measurement tools for compassion, proposing a five-element model and evaluating the psychometric quality of available compassion scales.

5/ Compassion and self-compassion: Construct and measurement by Soler et al.
https://www.elsevier.es/es-revista-mi...
Provides a synthesis of compassion and self-compassion constructs and reviews the most widely used instruments to assess them, with a focus on both Western and Buddhist perspectives.

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