9 Unspoken Rules in Narcissistic Families that you had to follow

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If you grew up with narcissistic parents, you probably learned a set of unspoken rules — not through words, but through fear, guilt, and silence.
In this video, psychotherapist, Jill, explains the 9 hidden rules that quietly shape life inside a narcissistic family system.

These rules define how children learn to survive: by keeping the peace, suppressing their feelings, and carrying emotional responsibilities that were never theirs to hold.

👉 In this video you’ll learn:
🔹 The psychological patterns behind narcissistic family dynamics.
🔹 The 9 “rules” every child in a narcissistic family unconsciously follows.
🔹 Why love, boundaries, and truth feel dangerous in these households.
🔹 How these early messages still affect your adult relationships and self-
esteem.
🔹 This isn’t about blame — it’s about understanding the emotional operating system that shaped you, so you can begin to see it clearly.
🔹 Awareness is the first act of freedom.

⏰ TIMESTAMPS
Timestamps:00:00 – Hook: The Rules You Were Never Allowed to Name01:15 – What Are the Unspoken Rules in Narcissistic Families?02:00 – Rule 1: Your Feelings Don’t Matter — Only Theirs Do03:15 – Rule 2: Keep the Peace — No Matter the Cost04:30 – Rule 3: Admire, Don’t Compete05:40 – Rule 4: Obey Without Question07:00 – Rule 5: The Family Image Comes First08:15 – Rule 6: Love Must Be Earned09:30 – Rule 7: Don’t Outshine or Outgrow the Parent10:45 – Rule 8: You Are Responsible for Their Emotions12:00 – Rule 9: Never Talk About the Family13:15 – Closing Thoughts
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👋 Hi, I’m Jill — a 50-something living in central Scotland with my husband, Paul. I love long bubble baths, cosy socks, and getting lost in a book with interesting characters — I’m a big Anne Tyler fan, but I also adore stepping back in time with Jane Austen and her heroines. I love observing intriguing characters like those in Mad Men, but I’m equally drawn to feel-good movies like Amélie. I enjoy wandering among the trees, strolling by the sea, and treating myself to the occasional margarita. Here, I share all things mental health and the issues that can show up in our minds and hearts — helping you understand what makes you tick while bringing hope for transformation.✨🌈

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