Mastering Compatibility and Why We Keep Getting It Wrong!

Compatibility is one of the most misunderstood concepts in dating — especially for high-achieving women who are used to succeeding everywhere else. This video offers grounded, practical dating tips for women who want clarity instead of confusion and alignment instead of emotional exhaustion.

If you’re a Black woman boss who has chemistry with men but struggles to build relationships that last, this conversation is for you. As a Black dating coach for women, I’m breaking down what compatibility actually is, why so many women confuse it with chemistry, and how learning the difference can completely shift your dating experience.

This episode is part of a deeper series focused on helping Black women date with discernment, self-awareness, and strong boundaries — without hardening their hearts. We’ll talk about how healthy compatibility shows up in real relationships, what to stop romanticizing early, and how to slow down long enough to choose well.

Watch next:
If you haven’t already, be sure to watch my previous video, Why Men Fall for Women Who’ve Mastered Detachment, where I explain how emotional security and healthy boundaries make women more attractive and respected in dating. These two videos together will help you understand both how you show up and who you choose.

Take the next step:
I created a quiz called What’s Blocking You From Being Soft in Love to help women identify the patterns and habits shaping their dating choices. When you take the quiz, you won’t just get a result — you’ll receive a 3-page personalized action plan designed to help you shift how you show up in dating and start building relationships rooted in compatibility, not confusion.

If you’re a Black woman boss ready to date with clarity, confidence, and intention — this space is for you.

Quiz: What's Blocking You From Being Soft in Love: bit.ly/whatsblockingyou


Books That Have Impacted My Views on Men, Dating & Relationships:
1. Saving Your Marriage Before it Begins: The 7 Questions to Ask Before and After You Get Married https://amzn.to/3Xc5lb5
2. His Needs Her Needs: Building an Affair Proof Marriage https://amzn.to/3QwmHLO
3. Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires, The Respect He Desperately Needs https://amzn.to/434D6ic
4. Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dream-girl https://amzn.to/3XfE3jZ
5. Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man https://amzn.to/412RFAc
6. What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience and Healing https://amzn.to/4hOTZSl
7. Getting the Love You Want: A Couples Guide https://amzn.to/3XgOkML
8. Why You’re Not Married . . . Yet https://amzn.to/4gWKoaW
9. Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others https://amzn.to/3CZMysA
10. The 5 Love Languages https://amzn.to/43gl0JY


For Helpful Resources Check Out the Links Below:
👩🏽‍🦱 Quiz link: What's Blocking You From Being Soft in Love: bit.ly/whatsblockingyou

📱 Apply for a coaching conversation with me: bit.ly/bookacoachingconvo

Chapters:
0:00 Intro
2:30 What most people believe compatibility is
4:17 Whan compatibility truly shows up in dating
8:02 How do you handle conflict
15:12 What compatibility looks like in healthy relationships
19:55 Why people confuse chemistry with compatibility
25:33 The trap of "we click so well"


✋🏾DISCLAIMER: This video is not sponsored. Some links are affiliate links which means if you buy something I may make a small commission at no additional cost to you. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.