"But What I Did Was Wrong" ...Real Self-Compassion Goes Deeper (Step 4 | The Whole Soul Way™)

Self-compassion practice doesn't work the way most people think it does - and that's why it keeps failing you. This is the practice that actually creates change, not the people-pleasing version that creates more shame.

You've tried being "nice to yourself" after you ate the whole bag, snapped at someone, or avoided what you needed to do. But saying "it's okay honey, you're only human" feels hollow because part of you knows it's NOT okay. Most people get self-compassion backwards - they're aiming it at the wrong thing entirely. That's why it doesn't work. That's why you keep repeating the same patterns while trying to be kinder to yourself about them.

There's one shift that changes everything - and it's not what you think.

In this video, you'll discover:

🔍 What you're probably getting wrong about self-compassion (and the one thing to aim it at instead)
🔍 The real reason your "nice" self-talk feels hollow
🔍 Why beating yourself up actually guarantees you'll do it again
🔍 When to do this work for maximum impact (counterintuitive timing)

We go deeper than the behavior, and that's where your freedom lives.

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