How Your Attachment Style Impacts Your Relationships

How do your childhood wounds show up in your adult relationships?
So many of our patterns in love come from the nervous system, early attachment, and the ways we learned to protect ourselves.
Here are some common signs of unresolved attachment wounds:
Trust issues
Abandonment fears
Anger or emotional outbursts
Isolation / keeping people at a distance
Addiction or compulsive behaviors
Fear of closeness
Low self-esteem
Self-sabotage (procrastination, being chronically late, overeating, overindulging, substances, etc.)
Is there a behavior you turn to in excess when you want comfort?
Not a scoop of ice cream — but the whole half-gallon, plus anything else in sight. I understand that deeply. I’ve had to stay mindful about whether I’m enjoying something as a treat… or using it to numb.
I knew at 12 years old that I was using food to self-soothe.
Awareness is the first step toward healing.

❤️ Reflection Questions to Explore Your Attachment Style
Use these to journal or simply reflect on your patterns in love:
How did your early experiences with your parents or caregivers shape how you relate to others today?
What do masculine and feminine traits mean to you?
What qualities do you value in close relationships — and how do these relate to your past?
What is the purpose of your relationships?
How do you handle conflict? Do you notice patterns from your childhood showing up now?
What would it look like for you to create more secure relationships?

🌿 Creating Healthier, More Secure Relationships
Pay attention to your nervous system.
Notice:
Who makes you light up when they enter the room?
Who feels safe?
Who drains you?
And practice:
Honesty with yourself and others
Healthy boundaries (say no without guilt)
Letting go of resentment
Vulnerability — with people who show empathy
Receiving love instead of rejecting or minimizing it

💞 Learn Your Love Language
Understanding how you give and receive love can transform connection.
Take the 5 Love Languages quiz — it offers so much clarity.
https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/lo...

🧘‍♀️ Build a Self-Care Practice
Create daily rituals that nourish your mind, body, and emotions.
Make your home and your inner world a safe place.

✨ Deeper Journal Prompts
Choose the ones that resonate:
What role do you usually play in relationships, and where did it come from?
How would you feel hearing this: “I can tell how much you love yourself by the partner you choose.”
Who are you around your partner? What parts of you do they bring forward?
Are you able to be fully yourself, or do you shape-shift to keep the peace?
Which needs are hardest for you to express?
What fears or defenses appear when you get close to someone?
How comfortable are you with change in relationships?