How to Improve Conversation, Boost Social Appeal, and Ease Anxiety with One Trait

Ever feel like your conversations could be more engaging or your social life more fulfilling? You might be lacking in a key ingredient: Social Curiosity. Don’t try to be interesting, focus on becoming INTERESTED.

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📚 What You'll Learn:
How curiosity can deepen your conversations and broaden your social horizons.
The research-backed appeal of social curiosity and why it captivates people.
Why and how social curiosity can help alleviate social anxiety.
Practical techniques to cultivate social curiosity and elevate your interactions.

As a clinical psychologist, I use social curiosity in my practice. But this isn't limited to professionals; anyone can benefit from honing this skill. By the end of this video, you'll be equipped to transform your social interactions for the better.

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Don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more content grounded in psychological research and clinical practice. Please share your experiences or additional tips in the comments below. Let's build a community where open, curious conversation is the norm.

As I said in the video, I'll create an advanced social curiosity video--so please let me know what you'd like help with.

Today we'll talk about:

0:00 - Intro: The Most Important Social Skill
1:06 - Two common deficits of social curiosity
1:47 - The power of curiosity to gain social capital
2:17 - My story of how I learned to be socially curious
3:28 - Curiosity makes socializing more fun
3:45 - Curiosity is an attractive trait
4:56 - Curiosity can reduce social anxiety
6:20 - The importance of accepting what people disclose
6:42 - How to be socially curious
7:45 - Tip 1: Repeat back any questions you’re asked
8:38 - Tip 2: Ask follow up questions
9:49 - Tip 3: How to find social curiosity topics
11:28 - Tip 4: Advanced curiosity skills in conversations
12:40 - Get more in my book
13:00 - Let me know your reactions and questions
13:27 - My book is out :)

I'm Dr. Thomas Smithyman, a clinical psychologist making videos to help people improve their social lives and overcome social anxiety.

QUESTION — Have a question about anything related to socializing or social anxiety? Post in the comments section of this video.

MY BOOK
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ONLINE GROUP THERAPY
I’m planning to start a virtual social anxiety group for folks with TX and NY addresses.

ONLINE THERAPY
I'm not currently accepting new patients for individual therapy.

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PODCASTS
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My mission here is to use video to help people overcome social anxiety. Most people with social anxiety never seek help, and those who do usually wait 16 years! Treatment is effective but people don't know about it. I'd like that to change, and I'd really appreciate any help.




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DISCLAIMER
This information is for educational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for clinical care. Please consult a health care provider for guidance specific to your case.