How to Take Feedback Without Taking It Personally

Do you secretly dread hearing the words “I have some feedback for you”?
Same.

I know feedback is supposed to make us better, but for so many of us, especially high achievers with ADHD or imposter feelings, feedback feels like a gut punch. Instead of fueling growth, it can send us into shame spirals, rejection sensitivity, or black-and-white thinking that leaves us doubting ourselves.

In this episode, I share my own journey with feedback, the books, the frameworks, and the mindset shifts that finally freed me from feeling crushed every time someone pointed out an area to improve. You’ll learn how to tell the difference between appreciation, coaching, and evaluation feedback… plus how to spot the triggers that make feedback feel unbearable and what to do with them.

Feedback doesn’t have to be your enemy. In fact, it can become one of the most powerful accelerators of your career and confidence, once you learn how to metabolize it.

🎯 In this episode:

↠ Why feedback feels threatening (especially with ADHD & rejection sensitivity)
↠ The 3 types of feedback: appreciation, coaching, evaluation
↠ Reinforcing vs redirecting feedback (the hiking path analogy)
↠ The 3 triggers that block feedback (truth, relationship, identity)
↠ How to know if it’s you or an environment mismatch
↠ Why 90% of feedback can be trash — and how to mine the gold
↠ How to reframe feedback as a tool, not a verdict

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Timestamps
00:00 – Why feedback feels so hard
01:00 – ADHD, rejection sensitivity & imposter spirals
02:00 – The book that changed how I see feedback
03:00 – Reinforcing vs redirecting feedback (the hiking path analogy)
05:50 – Feedback is context-specific, not good/bad
06:50 – The 3 types of feedback: appreciation, coaching, evaluation
07:50 – Why mismatched feedback causes friction
08:30 – The 3 triggers that block feedback (truth, relationship, identity)
10:00 – Rooting in identity: “I always figure it out”
11:00 – Final reframes: how to mine feedback for growth
13:16 – Define your 5-year midpoint
14:28 – Optional: your 1-year plan