how do deal with feeling needy in a relationship?

Many people worry when their partner doesn’t text back right away, but for those experiencing relationship anxiety, it can feel like abandonment. In this video, licensed marriage and family therapist Oliver Drakeford explains The Law of Constant Contact—one of the “10 Rules of Relationship Anxiety.”

This rule convinces you that emotional safety depends on constant reassurance, turning normal silence into panic and transforming your partner into a source of temporary relief rather than genuine connection. Oliver explores how this cycle develops, its roots in attachment theory, and why seeking certainty only makes anxiety worse.

You’ll learn:

Why relationship anxiety pushes you to seek constant reassurance.

How the search for certainty fuels dependence and tension in relationships.

The impact this has on partners and the relationship as a whole.

Practical steps for building tolerance for uncertainty and learning self-soothing skills.

00:00 Introduction: The Impact of Relationship Anxiety
01:02 Understanding the Law of Constant Contact
01:41 How Anxiety Creates Dependency on Partner Contact
03:03 The Role of Uncertainty in Relationship Anxiety
03:52 Childhood Origins and Adult Triggers
05:15 The Problem with Constant Reassurance
07:24 Impact on Your Relationship and Partner
08:36 Breaking Free from the Law of Constant Contact
10:11 Final Thoughts and Moving Forward

If you want to understand your own patterns and begin breaking free from the exhausting grip of relationship anxiety, take the 10 Rules of Relationship Anxiety Quiz here https://oliver-ngkegmdn.scoreapp.com