How Caring Less Is Not Careless

Have you ever wished you could just stop caring so much about what people think? Maybe you find yourself constantly worrying about what others believe about you—your ex, your in-laws, your friends—and completely forgetting what you think about you.
If you’ve gone through betrayal, abuse, or a life-saving divorce, this one’s for you. Because I get it. That deep need to be understood, to have people see your heart and the truth of your story—it can take up so much energy. But what if you could care less about the things that drain you and care more about what truly matters?
In this episode, I’m talking about why we care so much in the first place and how that’s connected to our attachment patterns, our nervous system, and what we learned early on about love and belonging. I’ll share how my own over-caring showed up during and after divorce, why it was tied to justice and survival, and what finally helped me release it.
You’ll also hear how Dr. Gabor Maté’s work around authenticity and attachment helped me understand that real belonging can’t exist without being true to ourselves. When we sacrifice who we are to keep connection, that’s not love—it’s compliance.
Together, we’ll explore how to rebuild self-trust—the kind that helps you stand strong in your truth even when others don’t understand or agree. Because caring less isn’t about becoming cold or detached. It’s about reclaiming your inner compass and letting your sense of safety come from within, not from other people’s comfort.
_________
✨ WORK WITH AMIE + NEXT STEPS IN YOUR HEALING
📍 Dating From Within Workshop January 8th-10th 2026\
👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here to register⁠⁠
💬 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Empowered Divorce Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month.
👣 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Body Love Class⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.
📍 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Believing In You Group Coaching ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Reserve your spot⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Start by taking the quiz⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Check it out here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Learn more + enroll⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
🎥 Watch on YouTube: Get episodes early + visual tools to support your journey.📲 Follow me on social:Instagram | Facebook | TikTok → @amiewoolsey
Need support ?📩 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
#LifeSavingDivorce #NotYourNormalDivorce #DivorceHealing #BetrayalTraumaRecovery #EmotionalHealingAfterDivorce #DivorceJourney #DivorceFromAbuse #TraumaInformedDivorce #SurvivingDivorce #HealthyDivorceRecovery #DivorceAndHealing #DivorceEmpowerment #BetrayalTrauma #HealingFromBetrayal #AbuseSurvivorHealing #LifeAfterBetrayal #HealingThroughDivorce #DivorceAndSelfDiscovery #DivorceRecoveryJourney#shouldistayorgo #narcissist #Abuse #betrayal #divorce #infidelity #cheating #affair #ldsdivorce #caringless #gabormate #divorceandhealing #betrayaltraumarecovery #divorce #divorceandselfdiscovery #divorceempowerment #healingfrombetrayal #tramabonding #bondingcycle #postdivorce #betrayaltrauma #posttraumaticgrowth #BetrayalTrauma #InfidelityRecovery #BetrayedPartner #SafetyAndStabilization #EmotionalHealing #RelationshipTrauma #TrustRecovery #HealingAfterInfidelity #TraumaRecoveryJourney #ATBPodcast #NavigatingGrief #BetrayalTrauma #InfidelityRecovery #EmotionalHealing #GriefAfterAffair #BetrayedPartnerSupport #RelationshipRecovery #AffairHealing #MarriageAfterInfidelity #HealingAfterInfidelity #APSATS #TraumaRecovery #RelationshipHealing #InfidelitySupport #BetrayedPartnerSupport #AffairRecovery #BetrayalHealing #AskTheUnfaithful #SelfJudgment #EmotionalHealing #InfidelityRecovery #ShameRecovery #RelationalLeadership #infidelity #hopeforhealing #affairrecovery #affairs #betrayal #betrayaltrauma #ptsd #cptsd #samshealingpodcast #addictionrecovery #infidelity #hopeforhealing #affairrecovery #affairs #betrayal #betrayaltrauma #ptsd #cptsd #samshealingpodcast #addictionrecovery #InfidelityRecovery #EmotionalInhibition #BetrayalHealing #FacingFear #UnfaithfulPartnerHealing #VulnerabilityAndTrust#InfidelityRecovery #EmotionalInhibition #BetrayalHealing #FacingFear #UnfaithfulPartnerHealing #VulnerabilityAndTrust