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Why It’s Not Your Job to Fix People | Understanding Emotional Hyper-Responsibility & EMDR Therapy

In this video, Registered Clinical Counsellor and Certified EMDR Therapist Ashley Philips explores the deep emotional patterns behind why so many of us feel responsible for managing other people’s emotions. If you’ve ever found yourself constantly trying to keep others happy, apologizing for things that aren’t your fault, or suppressing your own needs to avoid conflict, this message is for you.

Ashley explains how emotional caretaking often stems from childhood experiences—environments where love, safety, or approval were conditional. These early imprints can shape the way we navigate relationships as adults, leading to emotional hyper-responsibility and trauma responses that leave us overwhelmed, anxious, and disconnected from our true selves.

This video offers insight into:

Why you feel responsible for others' emotions

The connection between trauma, people-pleasing, and emotional self-abandonment

How EMDR therapy (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) helps reprocess unresolved trauma

Somatic healing and nervous system regulation

Building new, adaptive beliefs like “I can care without carrying”


Whether you’re new to EMDR therapy or are seeking a deeper understanding of your emotional patterns, this is a grounding and compassionate introduction to the healing process. Ashley shares how EMDR can help you let go of old beliefs, reconnect with your body, and learn how to be present without losing yourself.

If you are ready to stop carrying what isn’t yours and start your journey toward emotional freedom, this video will help you take the first step.


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