The Real Reason ADHD Women Feel “Behind” All the Time

Do you ever feel like you’re constantly behind — no matter how hard you try, how capable you are, or how much you’ve already accomplished?

For many ADHD women, this feeling isn’t about time management, motivation, or discipline. It’s something deeper — and far more invisible.

In this video, Jen unpacks the real reason so many ADHD women feel perpetually behind, even when they’re competent, responsible, and doing “all the right things.” We explore how nervous system overload, unspoken expectations, emotional labor, and years of over-functioning quietly stack the deck against you — without you ever realizing what’s happening.

If you’ve tried planners, systems, productivity hacks, or mindset shifts and still feel like you can’t catch up, this conversation will feel uncomfortably familiar — and deeply validating.

This video is for ADHD women who are tired of blaming themselves, questioning their competence, or feeling like they’re failing at life while everyone else seems to be keeping up.
You’re not imagining this pattern. And once you see it clearly, everything starts to make more sense.
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⏱ CHAPTERS ⏱
00:00 Introduction: The Overload Dilemma
00:51 Understanding the Overwhelming Feeling
01:52 The Root Causes of Overload
02:30 Survival Strategies and Their Impact
03:33 Personal Anecdote: Overfunctioning
04:34 The Neuroscience Behind Feeling Behind
07:08 Cultural Expectations and Their Toll
08:07 Shifting Your Approach to Capacity
09:18 Conclusion: Building a Life That Honors Your Capacity

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